I have two main goals. One is to find a way to make a living from home. The other is to find a girlfriebd.

Daniel,

Those are two noble goals to set for oneself. What steps are you taking to ensure that you are making progress in your working for these goals?

I've got the girlfriend part taken care of, just need to make a great living. Preferably from home. My dream is to have a succesful business of my own.

daniel,

Great goals! You may want to consider community activity. They'll help broaden your business through networking, and also help you meet more people (girlfriend)!

When it comes to girlfriends, the best way to meet one is by leaving the house. So if you work at home and don't go out much it might be pretty hard to find one...

Hi Daniel,

I have two main goals. One is to find a way to make a living from home. The other is to find a girlfriebd.

Which deadline have you set for making a living from home?

And have you determined what "make a living" means exactly to you? - is it a $1,000, $10,000 or $100,000 monthly income?

When do you plan on having found your perfect girlfriend?

I have two main goals. One is to find a way to make a living from home. The other is to find a girlfriend.
Well, just because you work from home doesn't mean you will always be at home. I know a lot of people who work from home but who often have to go out for sales calls, or to networking meetings (such as chamber of commerce, networking groups, business social events, etc.). Of course, you could also go the internet and/or mail order route, in which it will cost you more in money to market yourself vs. costing you time marketing yourself in networking type events. Preferably you should do both.

As far as a girlfriend, there are only two ways to meet one: get out of your house and meet people, perhaps at networking events and socials, and the other way is on the internet.

Like someone said, you need to be more clear in your goals. And it may be that, at least for the business part, you will need to do some research. Do some thinking about what you want and get clear about it. This will help you see the opportunity when it comes. Otherwise you may miss it since you are not clear on what you want.

Hi Daniel,



Which deadline have you set for making a living from home?

And have you determined what "make a living" means exactly to you? - is it a $1,000, $10,000 or $100,000 monthly income?

When do you plan on having found your perfect girlfriend?


I guess I haven't set any deadlines because I feel if I do I might fail and be disappointed.

I guess I haven't set any deadlines because I feel if I do I might fail and be disappointed.
You want to make goals so that it is not a someday one day phenomena. It will make your goals more concrete, more real.

You just have to realize that if you don't meet your goal, it's not the end of the world. Just reevaluate and set new goals.

Hi Daniel,

I guess I haven't set any deadlines because I feel if I do I might fail and be disappointed.

I've got several comments about this belief.

If you upfront think that you might not reach your goal by a dealine (you haven't set yet), then perhaps your subconsciousness has already set an unrealistic deadline for you.

If you set the deadline for finding the perfect girlfriend for January 1st, 2007 would you think that you could reach that goal?

Also, if you have doubts about reaching any of these two goals (money and girlfriend), then you might want to start with smaller goals - or goals of equal size that you feel comfortable you can reach.

Once you begin practicing goalsetting, setting deadlines, making and following plans, then you become better at it. And once you have seen that it *does* work, then you can easily and with confidence move on to bigger - and previously (in your own mind) "unreachable" - goals.

If you fail to reach a deadline, then you have learned a valuable lesson, as you will be better and better at setting realistic deadlines after that.

Will reaching the big goals in your life be easy?

Probably not. If it were then you have probably set the bar far to low.

Jim Rohn once said:

"The pain of self-discipline weighs ounces
while the pain of regret weighs tons.'

So start setting deadlines, fail (we all do), set new deadlines, fail them as well, learn some more, fail (again), set a new dealine, refine your goal ....... - and keep at it until you succeed.

What you don't want is to look back on your life when you get old - without money or wife - and regret that you didn't *try* because you feared that you might not reach your deadlines.

Don't let the fear of failure become the cause of failure.

Excellent post flensborg






If you set the deadline for finding the perfect girlfriend for January 1st, 2007 would you think that you could reach that goal?



This is a great point. I've had to do this. I had a goal that seemed so unattainable I had to set it for three years ahead.






Jim Rohn once said:

"The pain of self-discipline weighs ounces
while the pain of regret weighs tons.'






So true!

My boss practices "a deadline for the deadline" principle.

If he has a new and unknown task for me, then he doesn't ask for a deadline for when I expect to finish the task.

Instead he asks for a deadline for when I will come back with a deadline for when the task will be finished.

This way I can tell him, that on friday he can get the deadline for the task, because I will have had enough time to investigate documentation, explore different approaches and maybe even have had time to do some small scale testing.


Maybe you can use this principle (on) yourself.

Set a deadline for when you must have specified your goals (and their deadlines).

"By the end of April I will have thought about my goal, I've determined the dealine (and any intermediate milestones as well), how I'm going to achieve it, how I'm going to *know* that I've achieved it, how much work I expect it to take and what I'm willing to give up to be able to put in the needed efforts"

That's an excellent idea. I think I might just use that. :)

This is a great thread. Some very useful information. :thumb:

hi
i am prashanti. i have few major goals:
maintain individuality and never talk carelessly with anyone. Always have a positive attitude. i also want to have a systematic lifestyle. Only then can i have confidence.

Well, sometime I feel that setting a goal is not as tough as be committed with your goals.

How difficult it really is to "set" goals? I believe many must have heard about the SMART goals? But how many truly could be committed to your goals. Achieving your goals sometime require a delay gratification, req some short term sacrifices.

I am committed to my goals, and I work toward my goals every day. How about you?

I agree, staying focused on your goals is harder than setting them. I believe the following are needed:
1. Burning desire to attain those goals.
2. Plan (detailed steps toward the achievement of your goals).
3. A system that forces you to stick with your plan.
4. Training your subconscious mind (visualization).
5. A partner, or a group (mastermind) that will help you attain your goals.

I'm also committed in attaining my goals... I've checked your blog... like you, I recognize the Seven Habits by Mr. Covey but right now I'm currently working on living the laws of success advocated by Dr. Hill.

And for the dude who's goal is to have a perfect girlfriend... All I can say is "Just Do It" :thumb: