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Ok, I'll just say it .....

What do you do if you're neighbours through the wall are keeping you up all night because their headboard is banging against the wall while their having sex ? Added to that .. my 10 year daughter is in the room directly next to them and can hear them too !

I think Passion and Love and Sex are Great .... when I'm having it :biglaugh: so I don't want to be a passion killer !

Easiest option ... we invest in earplugs ? It can't just be us ... the whole apartment block must hear them ... so do I buy them for everyone ? :hmm:



Shoot to Kill :gun:

Ok, I'll just say it .....

What do you do if you're neighbours through the wall are keeping you up all night because their headboard is banging against the wall while their having sex ? Added to that .. my 10 year daughter is in the room directly next to them and can hear them too !

I think Passion and Love and Sex are Great .... when I'm having it :biglaugh: so I don't want to be a passion killer !

Easiest option ... we invest in earplugs ? It can't just be us ... the whole apartment block must hear them ... so do I buy them for everyone ? :hmm:

Umm depends on the person ither drill a hole through the wall if yainto that or use your ipod more

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ps ... I'm being serious :beatup: :D

:sorry:

Seriously, did you ever think of mentioning this to them?

1. Mention it to them.
2. Mention it to the super.
3. If other neighbours are affected, get a petition going.
4. Record it and paly it back through the walls. (They'll recognize themselves immediately!)
5. When all else fails, have a party of your own. The paper thin walls go both ways. :lildevil:

If you're not comfortable talking to them face-to-face, since it's a rather delicate subject, perhaps you could write them a kind note? Point out that you have a 10 yr-old and you're concerned about her hearing things. Or obviously if you want to be anonymous don't mention your daughter. You could also suggest to them that they put a pillow(s) between their headboard and the wall - that prevents it from banging the against the wall! You didn't mention if they're making "other" noises :yikes: which could be bothersome to a child or non-participant, so I'm not sure how to address those if they are a problem. Maybe soft music in your/your daughter's rooms?

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I would go next door and ask to join in.

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:biglaugh:

You fancy moving to UK instead of USA ? :biglaugh:

Will I ask them to adopt you ? :biglaugh:

I doubt they could keep up with my err Stamina, but I'll leave this for a later post, in say 3 or 4 years time.

ANOTHER NAME CHANGE?!?!? Chique - I liked your original screen name!! And now it says you're XXI :hmm:

Zaul - look what you started.....now everyone's gonna want to change his/her name and I'll be so confused :crosseye: :hopeless:

ANOTHER NAME CHANGE?!?!? Chique - I liked your original screen name!! And now it says you're XXI :hmm:

Zaul - look what you started.....now everyone's gonna want to change his/her name and I'll be so confused :crosseye: :hopeless:

Aww dont worry, If that happens we'll just rename you ' Blind Again ' :biglaugh:

I doubt they could keep up with my err Stamina, but I'll leave this for a later post, in say 3 or 4 years time.

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Aww cmon that was related to the post!
Are you ever going to stop slapping me around :hmm: ;)

You could also suggest to them that they put a pillow(s) between their headboard and the wall - that prevents it from banging the against the wall! Hand them a thick foam bed pad, and tell them it isn't for laying on
Maybe soft music in your/your daughter's rooms? Maybe REALLY LOUD 'out-of-the-mood' music at those certain moments?

Aww cmon that was related to the post!
Are you ever going to stop slapping me around :hmm: ;) Right now ..... it appears not.
Perhaps sometime in the future, when You've learned the lesson taught, Abbot & Costello will have a good laugh with you. But that time ain't today!

I mean this in the nicest possible way .... but I just knew you'd be attracted to this Thread AAL ;)

They are new (ish) neighbours ... moved in about 8 months ago ... so I'd not be so comfortable discussing such a delicate matter with them.

My bedroom is 2 walls away from thiers ... and my daughters is 2 walls away so if I can hear them then she can. D usually sleeps in my bed ... which is being addressed .... so when she's in her own bed I know it will be more noisy for her than for me. (D hasn't mentioned it)

Re. 'other noises' ... yes, there were a few moans and groans last week.

I had thought of putting a note through their door telling them the Passion is Great and I'm all for it, but maybe they should think about moving their bed slightly more away from the wall !!!

I'd rather be 'not comfortable' with this delicate matter and still talk to them rather than have to listen to it week after week.

This problem can be easily remedied with a little conversation or letter writing with perhaps a bottle of wine. I've achieved much in life with a bottle of wine as a bribe.

I've achieved much in life with a bottle of wine as a bribe.

So that's how you Canadian Realtors work..............:nono:

:D

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XXI?

:biglaugh: what are you up to Chique?

trying to fry my brain?



there is no substitute for honesty.

but you do not have to be specific unless they are being really dense.

either phone or knock the door when the noise is happening.

say "would you mind not banging on the wall" "it is really loud and disturbing us." and wait for a response. what ever that response is say thank for your cooperation and then drop it.

if that does not work well then complaining to the building supervisor is the next option. again you do not have to be specific.

love n hugs

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I've achieved much in life with a bottle of wine as a bribe.


Was it a bottle of BC Ice Wine?? That would work on almost everyone! ;) :thumb: Good trick, I will have to remember that one!

They are new (ish) neighbours ... moved in about 8 months ago ... so I'd not be so comfortable discussing such a delicate matter with them.


Isn't it interesting what pain we are prepared to put ourselves through, to avoid 'uncomfortable' moments.

Where 'else' does this show up in your life?

Mark

Ok, I'll just say it .....

What do you do if you're neighbours through the wall are keeping you up all night because their headboard is banging against the wall while their having sex ? Added to that .. my 10 year daughter is in the room directly next to them and can hear them too !

I think Passion and Love and Sex are Great .... when I'm having it :biglaugh: so I don't want to be a passion killer !

Easiest option ... we invest in earplugs ? It can't just be us ... the whole apartment block must hear them ... so do I buy them for everyone ? :hmm:

Compete!

When they have loud sex so do you and make it louder. Totaly serious there is no reason to not have sex with your wife every night.

Compete!
Totaly serious there is no reason to not have sex with your wife every night.

There's no reason to not be considerate of others living right next to you, it's called being socially-conscious. Seriously. Of course, it could be argued that Chique is not being considerate of their "need" to have loud sex either, and that is where they can then have dialog. Most people in their right mind will understand that it is not right for a 10 yr old to be hearing their love-making sessions every night, and therefore their 'heart' might cause them to go slow on that need.

Ok, I hold the crown for apartment/condo queen of America. I finally bought my first home at age 39. So I have lived everywhere and in every kind of thinned-walled circumstance. I never lived anywhere for more than two years and usually one so that's alot of apartments.

When I was on my cruise this past March, friends of ours were in not the next room but the one past that. So in between us was a couple that was getting down loudly every night. With the balcony door open, to boot. So friends and hubs and me waited until they started up and then at the agreed upon time, with balcony doors open as well, we put them to shame, mocking them with orgasmic noises and bangings on the wall. I can't promise alcohol wasn't a factor. But it worked. They quit that exhibitionist crap and closed the balcony door and behaved like people who didn't think they were the only ones on the planet, or ship, as the case may be. Thats option ONE.

In my last apartment before I moved to NC, a couple next door had that same issue. Their bedroom wall was my livingroom wall so if I had people over, it was atrociously embarrasing. So I made up these cards like the scorers cards in the Olympics before it was electronic. At the top it said LAST NIGHT WAS: 8.5 or a 10 or whatever and I stuck them to the wall in the hallway outside their door. That worked well after about a week. Plus, my guests would see me go to the desk and pull out the card, look them over, look at the wall and decide and go out the door without saying a word and paste it up. So it turned out to be an amusing anecdote as well for them.

Then before that I lived in a place where my gay downstairs neighbors were the problem. They seemed quite conservative for all appearances so for that one, a little note slipped under the door did the trick. I don't think they realized how loud they were, it was anonymous so there were no embarrased glances in the laundry room or anything of that nature.

Bottom line is this: do NOT let this fester. It will completely ruin and disrupt your life in your place and that is about the worse kind of Feng Shui ever. You dread going home. You begin to dread having people over. You begin to dread going to bed. ALL bad things and YOU reap the negative effects, not the culprits. Communicate in some way or fashion. But do it.

Jennifer

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geta porn DVD, stick it on teh player on repeat.

Put the speakers next to the wall.

Turn the sound up.

Go out.

Thank me late.

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1. Mention it to them.
2. Mention it to the super.
3. If other neighbours are affected, get a petition going.
4. Record it and paly it back through the walls. (They'll recognize themselves immediately!)
5. When all else fails, have a party of your own. The paper thin walls go both ways. :lildevil:

ROTFLMAO :biglaugh:

Oh my gosh No 4 cracks me up Corinne!!!!!! Can you imagine their reaction?!!!!! Plus I'm imagining the actual act of huddling by the wall with one of those big 1970s tape recorders and then playing it back through the walls looking like a complete nutcase!!! :biglaugh:

Thank you for giving me such a good laugh C!!!!! :biglaugh: :biglaugh: :biglaugh:

IT'S A FUNNY SITUATION BUT THE FACT THAT YOU HAVE A 10 YEAR OLD IN THE HOUSE MEANS YOU NEED SOME BOUNDRIES. PERHAPS THEY DON'T REALIZE HOW THIN THE WALL ARE?

MAYBE YOU CAN MENTION YOUR DAUGHTER GOES TO SLEEP AT A CERTAIN TIME TO GET UP EARLY FOR SCHOOL?

# 4 WOULD DEFINATELY WORK:biglaugh: