She's not dying but she feels like she is. A while ago I started a thread about mid-life crises...her husband wanted to leave her. Well, after numerous visits to a marriage counselor and a mid-life crisis specialist...also this past weekend they went on a retreat to help their marriage, well the day after the retreat, he told her that he still has no feelings for her and he's leaving. He already filled out an application for an apartment. She is devistated and just needs some prayers or good vibes sent her way.

Thank you in advance.

She's not dying but she feels like she is. A while ago I started a thread about mid-life crises...her husband wanted to leave her. Well, after numerous visits to a marriage counselor and a mid-life crisis specialist...also this past weekend they went on a retreat to help their marriage, well the day after the retreat, he told her that he still has no feelings for her and he's leaving. He already filled out an application for an apartment. She is devistated and just needs some prayers or good vibes sent her way.

Thank you in advance.
Very possitve vibes heading her way from Australia

Hi Joanne

Sorry to hear about your sister. What a horribe time for her.

Just a thought but I wonder if your sister's husband saying he has no feelings for your sister is more connected to himself and his current state of mind than it is to do with her?

I'm not a marriage guidance counsellor and I know absolutely nothing about your sister's marriage so I hope you don't think I'm trying to analyse. It was just a thought as I do believe this can happen sometimes.

Anyway, sending lots of positive thoughts to your sis. I hope she'll be ok.

Thank you Aus, PW and Tash. :hug:

Tash, I honestly don't know if it's connected to himself more and his current state of mind. He has gone to therapy, many times and still came up with his original decision.

19 years of marriage, thats a long time and they have two wonderful children...12 and 14.

Best wishes to you and your sister Jo, sounds like she has a wonderful family arounds her, its time for her to be the focus of the family to help her through. Im sure your love for her will help too.

Luv
Mick

Hi Joanne,

Love and prayers for your sister. She'll get through this. It's tough, but she
deserves to be with someone who is 100% committed to her. Right now it's hard to see that, but it's true.

:hug:

Plenty of prayers and positive energy going out to your sister!!! :thumb:

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Prayers And Loving Light
Going Her Way

Big Hugs
Mudd
xox
:loveit:

This same scenario recently happened to my beloved sister-in-law, my husband's brother's wife. Brother decided the grass might be greener elsewhere. We don't believe he actually HAD a girlfriend but he had someone he thought could be his girlfriend. The truth of the matter was, she (this potential girlfriend) really didn't want any part of that mess. I think his state of mind was: whoa, someone besides my wife thinks I am tasty so I'd better get out there and make sure I am not missing out.

Classic mid-life crisis. He was as devistated with his choice as he was determined to have his choice. So it was a painful time for all of us. As they each took turns flying down to commiserate with us whenever they needed a mini-vacation.

The advice I gave to my sister-in-law was this: Any man who thinks you are unworthy of his best, most complete dedication to you should not receive your best and most complete dedication in return. It's devistating to your self-esteem which is hanging on by a thread anyway. Just back off. Quit walking around like a slump and bawling and begging for more counselling. Just shake it off and suck it up. Man up, figuratively speaking, and choose life not misery. Be there for your kids. Renew your dedication to your career. Help other people. Basically, decide to be a total package to the world.

In this case, as in others of a similar nature I have personally been involved in, success is the best "revenge." Though success isn't really the right word and revenge isn't either. My sister-in-law, being the strongest woman I have ever met, even on a bad day, took my advice. I don't know about all the details, but they are back together as a family after six months.

From an LOA perspective, which I have much more knowledge of now than I did in November of 2005 when this mess all started, changing your focus from pain, loss, misery and sadness will automatically increase the flow of goodness and prosperity into her life. If that goodness happens to include her husband coming to his senses, great. If it happens to mean that she loses her husband because he didn't deserve her anyway, great. If it means she loses her husband because her true soulmate is trying desperately to enter her reality, even better.

Jennifer

That was wonderful Jen, thank you....I sent it to my sister and she thanks you too :hug:

Thank you all for your prayers and positive energy :blowkiss:

Hi Joanne

Sorry to hear about your sister. What a horribe time for her.

Just a thought but I wonder if your sister's husband saying he has no feelings for your sister is more connected to himself and his current state of mind than it is to do with her?

I'm not a marriage guidance counsellor and I know absolutely nothing about your sister's marriage so I hope you don't think I'm trying to analyse. It was just a thought as I do believe this can happen sometimes.

Anyway, sending lots of positive thoughts to your sis. I hope she'll be ok.

Hi Joanne
Im sorry to hear this about your sister!

I think that if her husband isnt really connected to himself anymore then it IS for the best for him to move and take time off. Time to re-connect.

I know this must be very hard for your sister, but maybe she also should take time off and re-connect with herself and her potiental?

Send her my best wishes!

Flower

Hi Joanne
Im sorry to hear this about your sister!

I think that if her husband isnt really connected to himself anymore then it IS for the best for him to move and take time off. Time to re-connect.

I know this must be very hard for your sister, but maybe she also should take time off and re-connect with herself and her potiental?

Send her my best wishes!

Flower


Thank you Flower...you're right, this could be an opportunity to take time off and re-connect with herself. It's going to take a little time though, the hurt is definitely getting in the way. She's beautiful, smart, funny, a fabulous mother and housewife...I don't know what the hell he's thinking!